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Singaporeans are all crying father and crying mother everyday and the gahment still not doing enough so how to get married early and have more babies?

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Is the gahment giving unemployed Singaporeans money to feed their wives and the babies?

Singaporeans say Show Me the Money and we will show you the babies

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Please go ahead BUT never have babies until you have saved enough of 5 years expenses, for your family!

My friend completed his Poly in our goverment institution but could not get any full-time job for the past 3 years! His wife had to support the family with 2 kids and around 28 years old now. So he had to be a nanny-father and yet, take-up a other part-time courses, that seems forever. Because whatever his wife earns goes to the children, and only when he saves enough, then he will sign-up for a certain module.

Assuming, he needs another 3 years to complete before he can get a decent full-time job and higher pay to support the family! Some emotional stress is very diificult to bear.

Legalise polygamy to solve the baby problem.The govt can help by subsiding each baby

It is true that today's young people to marry later and plan to have children later.They also plan to pursue learning and career advancement.It is also a good reason.So today, the pressure of so many lives, it has weighed heavily on the shoulders of young people.Desire for a better life for the family, the children at the end is understandable.Personally, I also think that one should not marry and have children too soon.Since early marriage itself immature in thought and action, of course, is not career success can not be guaranteed for life called happiness.

Good topic. But this thread is better placed in the "Other Hot Topic " Section. It is not a physical environment issue. What are the Reach admin team doing pls?

"Many young Singaporean couples have mixed feelings between nurturing their romance and having a successful married life and children.  For many ambitious singles, they would rather be secured with their personal finances, career paths and more of life experiences before settling down....The chase after paper qualifications and perform exceeding well in their dream plan are more important for them than coping with issues of raising children".

It boils down to what priorities and values one has nowadays. Priority is me first. Values are success at all costs. Success is having money and not family. I feel that this is an inevitable result of our country's brutal progress over the decades. There have been compromises and trade-offs. Even romance is replaced by pragmatics. Want to apply  for a flat? Let's go dutch? Dates are at one-for-one deals?  

This is no longer a care-free generation. No more play in childhood. Tuition and exams take precedent in the toddler stage. More exams and learning camps abound in the primary school. 10 year series dominate in secondary school. Competition for scores and slots peaks at tertiary level. Then its onto the first job search next and whether they can earn at least $2,000. They are struggling to climb up the career ladder before they hit 30 to see if they can earn $5,000. All the time their relatives, friends and colleagues are comparing and competing their rate of success to see who first earns $10,000. Do you think a twenties something person has time to think of romance and wants to start a family?
 
We have taken for granted that the young will value the stability of a family. But there are too many distractions like other forms of success competing for their attention. Their pride is found at the work place and in the bank account. They rather be known as workhaholics. They would not dare start a family so soon.

To solve that, see if they can teach our children and help them learn something more about the priority of building relationships, nurturing a caring society and maintaining a harmonius family instead of just hard truths in the primary school curriculum instead of just the traditional PSLE subjects.