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28 Jun 2012, 11.35PM
Dear DPM Teo,

Today, I chanced upon the online article, "Government reviewing marriage and parenthood measures" and feel glad that the government is constantly reviewing policies to boost nationwide population figures. Previously, I chanced upon the Channel NewsAsia online article, "Have Baby Bonuses been helpful?" and feel that the scheme HAS generally been useful in helping young couples "consider" having children. I was further gladdened that the govt would match dollar-to-dollar, the savings parents deposit in a special account for the child. 

As a young adult of 26, l do believe a majority of young couples DO want to settle down in life eventually, and start a family. But I also feel that the financial constraints delaying the process doesn't just stem from delay caused by expensive housing or/and child care expenditure. But even before all that, the costs of a wedding.

Ask any young couple who intend to get married but are from middle to low income families, "Why don't you want to get married now?". The answers would usually be, "Not enough money and savings... (listen on)... TO buy a house, and PAY for my wedding, much less think about raising a family". The govt has implemented measures to provide priority housing to young couples. They have also formulated a wonderful Baby Bonus scheme. But what about the third component? The wedding?

Unfortunately, one cannot change the tide of culture and mindset that exists amongst the young these days. One could say, "why not just settle for a simple wedding?"

Huge weddings are really expensive in Singapore. But the "idea" of a dream wedding is what most young adults feel is a goal and dream that shouldn't be compromise. They'd rather WAIT to have the perfect wedding. So the need to SAVE (if you ask any young couple, is not because of BABIES... but because of 1) House & 2) the Wedding. And the "saving" will cause delay! Marrying younger than 30 is a challenge these days. A young couple will tend to wait an average of 2 years to start having babies. However, if the couple were able to hold their wedding earlier, they will eventually choose to start a family earlier as well.

In short, it might not be a bad idea to help young couples "defray" the costs of their weddings by formulating a marriage bonus scheme? Something like a grant and not a loan with high interest. This might encourage young couples to consider walking down the aisle without too much delay.

For your consideration,

Yours Sincerely,

Brenda Lee
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Guest
29 Jun 2012, 12.04PM
in this day and age, there are still people who believe that wedding dinners will actually cement the love that they have for each other? a marriage is about two people not food. i got married with a luncheon and my marriage of nearly 10 years is stronger than ever.

time to grow up, brenda. if money can solve the love and divorce issues, the government would be the first to do it. dream weddings are personal choices, don't make the tax payer pay for your dreams.

just like a credit card, spend within your means. if you cannot have a ballroom with 100 tables, make do with what your budget allows. money does not dictate whether you love each other or not.
Guest
29 Jun 2012, 9.49AM
Sure, how about a loan to marry, and you pay loan back with 150% principal +compound interest if you fail to have child in 2 years and pay 200% principal loan if you divorce or separate?

You must understand that if the govt takes a huge risk in your future, should it cover its risks as well?

I suppose you expect the govt to cover your courtship as well or should govt include proposal rites- with a standard proposal email?

Guest
29 Jun 2012, 4.39AM
This is so materialistic!
You might as well suggest government pay for your diamond ring?

Pay your wedding dinner? 

Don't forget, if you get divorced? 
(Freshman)
Jeric87
29 Jun 2012, 9.41AM
Hi Ms. Brenda.

Actually I agree with you that indeed, wedding costs is one of the many and in fact, a serious consideration and barrier towards marriage, especially for Chinese couples. As a guy, I am also personally uncomfortable if my wedding only consists of a luncheon buffet, no dinner kind. Even if my wife agrees to such a simple wedding, I just feel that I will not be doing her justice.

However, I am not sure if your proposal for wedding subsidies is feasible or would work. It boils down to the question; Are weddings a luxury or a need? Like the others had mentioned; is the government going to give subsidies when a couple could settle for a more simple and 'affordable' wedding? Who qualifies for how much, or how much is enough? Will people abuse the system? A lot of details and complexities will need to be worked out.

I guess the government should also examine the public's perception towards marriage and family before introducing any policies to increase the TFR. There's no point introducing so many monetary incentives when people are simply not interested.
Guest
29 Jun 2012, 1.36AM
Terribly, you want a grant to get marry.Wedding dinner becomes a necessity for you. I hope DPM Teo would tell you to marry in ROM and have a buffet reception.
Guest
29 Jun 2012, 11.51AM
I think what Brenda said make sense.  For those replying with sacarsm that the govt should pay for a wedding ring etc. are not giving what she highlighted much thought. Avoid the sardonism pls and be analytical... geez

What she and Jeric87 are highlighting is a societal mindset. This is representative and prevalent.

The govt needs to tackle this mindset and provide solutions that would be advantageous for the couple and not financially burdening for the govt.
Guest
29 Jun 2012, 12.11PM
wah... got grants for wedding...
be prepared for more sham weddings involving PRs/foreigners! :)
Guest
9 Jul 2012, 12.30PM
How about giving money to those unmarried mothers who give birth?  It si about having more bablies .. so .. so long babies are born .. govt give money!!!!
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